The Heart & Soul of True Intimacy by Ken Page

Do you believe in the power and importance of deep romantic love and yearn to bring this soul-filling, authentic love into your life — yet feel it’s somehow always just out of reach?

Are you tired of shallow dates, fleeting connections and new relationships that don’t last? AND, if you’re in a relationship, do you long for the spark and deep joy you once had or — better yet — to cultivate deeper intimacy and romantic passion?

The search for deep, true, lasting intimacy is perhaps the most important and precious journey of our lives.

Authentic romantic love feeds our sense of inner joy and stability and deepens the quality of our days and nights — science even says it benefits our health. And in the long run, most of us would agree that the love in our lives is definitely what matters most.

That’s why the greatest gift you can give yourself is learning the skills of love.

AND, believe it or not, the journey to discovering and cultivating love is actually meant to be one of the great spiritual and emotional journeys of your entire life!

There’s no deeper journey than your journey of learning to find and keep love. And because the intimacy journey is so much a journey of your deepest self, the true path to finding love is also a path to your own soul, to your inner greatness.

It’s a journey that can transform your life and teach you the most important love skill of all — how to reveal your “Core Gifts” and to share them with bravery, generosity and discrimination.

Your Core Gifts are the often challenging treasures of your soul. They’re the places where you experience the greatest sensitivity and passion. Often, they’re the parts of yourself that you feel ashamed of, or embarrassed by, or think you need to cover up in order to be successful in love — but the exact opposite is true!

Your Core Gifts provide you with direct access to deeper love and to your own personal greatness.

That’s because, when you learn to embrace and treasure these qualities in yourself, true love opens up in your life. You start to choose people who are better for you. You deepen the love that you have. You take a stand for deeper, richer intimacy. You discover the unique powerhouse of your own soul.

When you avoid these qualities, or suppress and bury them, you actually turn against yourself — and, in turn, life feels like it turns against you.

To bear the heat of true love, it’s essential that you discover how to recognize and cherish your own unique Core Gifts, which are as individual as your own fingerprints.

Because, when you can do this, your world opens up.

Yet most often, the advice we receive about love — how to find it, grow it and nurture it into a lasting love that can shine and fill our souls — focuses more on the superficial, making us believe that we need to “fix” ourselves in some way to attract and sustain a loving relationship.

From Fixing Yourself to Expressing Your Gifts

Oftentimes, the media, society and even some relationship gurus encourage approaching love from the outside-in.

For singles, that means changing the way you look, playing hard to get and “acting” confident. For couples, it means a myriad of “tips” for a “quick fix,” which don’t touch the heart and soul of what makes true intimacy work and last.

At worst, you’re encouraged to lead with gimmicks, games or an airbrushed version of yourself, and to minimize — or dismiss completely — your precious inner authenticity.

Well, you’ve been handed the wrong map to love!

If you want true, deep love, the journey must be from the inside out!

The greatest truth about love, whether it’s about finding it or growing it is this: If you want lasting love, you must learn to lead with your soul — your deepest, truest, most essential self.

This is the more authentic, heartfelt and vulnerable approach to finding the love you want — one in which you make every moment along the way an opportunity for becoming more beautifully, powerfully YOU.

On this new path, you discover how to let go of old beliefs, including the need to “impress,” “win over,” “attract,” or “seduce” your lifemate. You experience a journey of self-revelation, in which you learn to embrace ALL parts of yourself and share your true self with others.

As you shift to this deeper understanding and orientation, you end up with many unexpected benefits in ALL of your relationships. You laugh more. You develop the capacity for real intimacy. You realize you CAN be loved, desired and appreciated for being you…

Most importantly, you come to see that what you thought were the “warts” you had to hide from others in order to be loved, are actually gifts. And your relationship wounds gradually stop being obstacles to unconditional love. In fact, you find that they hold unexpected blessings for you and others and the nourishing foundations for true intimacy and the love you desire.